Regrets, We've All Had a Few



"There are no regrets in life, just lessons." ~ Jennifer Aniston


Today as I drove to the book store a song came on the radio that immediately sent me back to my childhood. It wasn't the particular song that had me reflecting it was just the music and what it had me doing...playing air guitar. I'm sure the cars next to me thought something strange was going on but for me it was trip down memory lane. Regrets, we've all had a few. It's my belief that regrets aren't always a bad thing. Like the quote above says; they are life lessons.

Growing up my nights were filled with my father playing either the piano or organ for hours on end. Although the majority of his playing was church music, which wasn't really my cup of tea, it was still a powerful influence. My father encouraged my brother and I to play instruments. We both tried the piano but didn't like it. I moved to guitar and my brother to the drums. You could probably imagine the noise coming from our house whenever we had the urge to play. Our parents never complained about the noise. In fact, they enjoyed listening to us play. Eventually I stopped playing as I was spending a lot of time with competitive sports but my brother kept banging away. He got so good that he eventually joined a band that had a bit of success. You can say that music was a big part of my family life growing up.

What brought me to this post, however, was the idea of regrets. I think back to those early days and how much I loved playing guitar. Music was, and still is an important part of my life. My regret is that I didn't keep at it. My father still says to this day that I have a great ear. I often wonder even if I didn't make it as a musician if I could've had a career in the music industry. Maybe a producer or even a sound engineer. That's my regret, what might have been. But I'm not letting it take my life in a different direction. I'm using it as way of confirming my present. There must have been a reason why I chose not to pursue music. Do I regret not following a path dedicated to music? Maybe a little. It could've been super fun. But I think I made the right choice going into teaching. I've said it before and I'll say it again; teaching is the most important career one could have. It changes lives. Although my life might have been different had I chosen to follow the path of music, I know I'm making a difference in a career that means so much to so many. So in the grand scheme of things my regrets aren't huge, more like little pangs of "what could have been." 

I hope those that read this blog realize that your choices in life don't have to end up being regrets. They can be lessons. Maybe even callings to something bigger and more important.

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  • Kristi Keery bishop

    Hi David,
    Such a reflective post for this reflective time of year! Love it. I wonder, though, why they have to be regrets and not reminders that help us figure out what we want to do next? We are life long learners! It's never too late. I'm spending my summer trying to do something I've kicked myself for not doing for twenty years. I have no idea if it will go well, but I'll never know until I try. Although I've only just started, I think I'm probably better prepared for this adventure now than I was twenty years ago. So how are you turning your regret into a call of action?

  • David

    Hi Kristi,

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts! You're right that they don't have to be regrets. It's a great way to look at things when we can use them to figure out what to do next. I'm glad you're going to attempt something you've wanted to do for twenty years. I guess I consider my call to action is to support school music programs as much as I can. I'm always amazing when I listen to our grade 7 & 8 concert band and what our amazing music teacher has them playing. Although my playing days may be behind me I can always do everything I can in my role to create the conditions where the arts are valued and supported. I know the power it can have for students.

  • Aviva

    I was very curious to see how you replied to Kristi's comment. Have you ever considered playing with the school band (even part of one song)? What a great way to show students that it's never too late to follow your dreams.


  • David

    Hi Aviva,

    That's a great idea...maybe a tad bit embarrassing but would send a great message to the students. I'll put that on my list for next year. :)

  • Aviva

    I think that this would be a good kind of "uncomfortable" and would send a great message to kids. I'm so excited that you're going to give this a try. Please let us know how it goes. Your PLN will be there to support you. I wish I could be there to play along with you, but trust me when I say that my tuba playing skills are not band worthy. :)