"There are no regrets in life, just lessons." ~ Jennifer Aniston
Today as I drove to the book store a song came on the radio that immediately sent me back to my childhood. It wasn't the particular song that had me reflecting it was just the music and what it had me doing...playing air guitar. I'm sure the cars next to me thought something strange was going on but for me it was trip down memory lane. Regrets, we've all had a few. It's my belief that regrets aren't always a bad thing. Like the quote above says; they are life lessons.
Growing up my nights were filled with my father playing either the piano or organ for hours on end. Although the majority of his playing was church music, which wasn't really my cup of tea, it was still a powerful influence. My father encouraged my brother and I to play instruments. We both tried the piano but didn't like it. I moved to guitar and my brother to the drums. You could probably imagine the noise coming from our house whenever we had the urge to play. Our parents never complained about the noise. In fact, they enjoyed listening to us play. Eventually I stopped playing as I was spending a lot of time with competitive sports but my brother kept banging away. He got so good that he eventually joined a band that had a bit of success. You can say that music was a big part of my family life growing up.
What brought me to this post, however, was the idea of regrets. I think back to those early days and how much I loved playing guitar. Music was, and still is an important part of my life. My regret is that I didn't keep at it. My father still says to this day that I have a great ear. I often wonder even if I didn't make it as a musician if I could've had a career in the music industry. Maybe a producer or even a sound engineer. That's my regret, what might have been. But I'm not letting it take my life in a different direction. I'm using it as way of confirming my present. There must have been a reason why I chose not to pursue music. Do I regret not following a path dedicated to music? Maybe a little. It could've been super fun. But I think I made the right choice going into teaching. I've said it before and I'll say it again; teaching is the most important career one could have. It changes lives. Although my life might have been different had I chosen to follow the path of music, I know I'm making a difference in a career that means so much to so many. So in the grand scheme of things my regrets aren't huge, more like little pangs of "what could have been."
I hope those that read this blog realize that your choices in life don't have to end up being regrets. They can be lessons. Maybe even callings to something bigger and more important.